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To be coachee
How could I have committed myself to write one text per month for this blog and not being able to comply? This means I’m just like everyone else – which has a good side, because I like being normal; but it also has a bad side, because sometimes I have got very good intentions, but then I cannot always fulfill what I have committed to. Not because I’m irresponsible, which I’m not, but because I let other obligations get in the way and I lose focus. And, like many people, I do not like this feeling of failure.
Thus, I have different possibilities to feel good about myself and others: to be reliable and trustworthy, which is always my main goal; to start to live well with failure, something I doubt that I can do since I think very good about myself; or to become aware of my inner obstacles, identify the solutions I have at my reach and implement them. This process of reflection, introspection, change of habits and behaviors is vital, but sometimes it is also difficult to do on your own, especially if it is intended to obtain safe and quick results.
And it is completely different to commit by myself or with someone who challenges me, beacons me and celebrates with me my small or great achievements.
And here enters the coaching that has helped me immensely and I am sure will continue to be useful whenever I detect areas for improvement in my personal development and in my relationship with others, both at personal or professional level.
The fact that I create space to get to know me better through coaching processes in which I determine the area to focus, how I want to feel at the end, the rhythm of my development and what actions must I implement to get there always give me, in the first place, a sense of well-being and later energy when I challenge myself to see the issues from new points of view and when I hear myself saying to my coach “I had never thought of it in this way.”
The partnership I establish with my coach is particularly gratifying given that, as a coach myself, I understand well the fundamental role that the coach has on my process, not replacing me at all, but rather being the guarantor of what I express. And it is completely different to commit by myself or with someone who challenges me, beacons me and celebrates with me my small or great achievements.
Paula Gonçalves Pereira